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<\/p>\nHas wedding rehearsal dinner planning got you befuddled and bewildered? Not to worry. We’ve got answers to help you piece together your pre-party puzzle.<\/p>\n
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A:<\/strong> There are no rules! The guest list is pretty much up to you — it can be as simple as you two, your immediate families, and wedding party and their spouses and\/or significant others. Or, you can make it a bash and invite all your out-of-town guests. It’s a very good opportunity to maximize your quality time with visiting friends and relatives — you’ll be more relaxed than at the wedding, and you’ll have more time to chat. And don’t worry about ruining the “surprise” for them; they don’t come to the actual ceremony rehearsal — that’s only for the wedding party and your parents. Everyone else joins you afterward for dinner.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> It would be awful not to invite them. Remember, no matter who they are or what they’re like, your fiance’s parents will soon be your in-laws. No matter how horrible you think they’ll act, you should start off on the right foot by inviting them to this party. Trust me, there will be more trouble if you don’t invite them than if you do. Grit your teeth, grin, and bear it. And it’s true that his parents may not realize they’re supposed to host the rehearsal dinner. It’s up to you and your fiance to either bring it up with them or host the dinner yourselves. The fact that they’re divorced and don’t get along may make asking them to host it more trouble than it’s worth. Remember, too, that the rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be a big to-do — it can be as simple as a home pizza party or burgers on the backyard grill. Look at it as a way to kick back before the wedding; concentrate on your family, your fiance, and your wedding party (this is a good time to present them with their thank-you gifts) instead of dwelling on what his parents might do at the event.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> The rehearsal dinner is the perfect opportunity to let your families hang out together in a more casual atmosphere. Sometimes, the more formal the wedding, the less formal the rehearsal dinner should be. It’s not tacky at all! The formal wedding will be nicer and more fun because the key players are already comfortable with each other. And a casual rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be unstylish — you can go to a cool Italian restaurant or popular pizza joint and have a blast.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> The invitations<\/a> depend on your dinner. If it will be a big party with lots of out-of-town guests in a hotel banquet room or somewhere equally official, then you should send invitations. They can be either formally engraved or handwritten on cards, depending on the occasion’s formality. You’ll also want people to RSVP so you’ll have a head count for the caterer. If your rehearsal dinner will be fairly low-key, a party at a pizza joint or a barbecue at Mom’s house with just the wedding party, you two and your parents, then you don’t really need “official” invitations. Just make sure everyone knows where they need to be and when.<\/p>\n A:<\/strong> Here’s the deal with rehearsal-dinner wedding toasts: It does vary but chances are some people will toast you — your parents, the best man, etc. When you are toasted, you should definitely rise in thanks, and perhaps make a toast in return. The bride may also do a toast if she likes. Truthfully, the rehearsal party is traditionally the groom’s and his parents’ thing, so you can’t just fade into the woodwork. Don’t stress out about it, though. You needn’t say anything earth-shattering — just thank whoever toasted you, tell your fiance you love her and can’t wait for your day to begin, and thank your parents for all they’ve done for you. At the reception<\/a>, the bride and groom generally do not respond to toasts, so you’re off the hook there. If you get nervous, just remember — it’s the best man who’s expected to be witty, not you!<\/p>\n Photo taken by Kristyn Hogan Photography kristynhogan.com<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\nQ: My fiance’s family either has no idea they are supposed to host a rehearsal dinner, or they just don’t care! My parents can’t afford it but suggested I invite everyone to a catered party at my house (my fiance and I will pay for it). Aside from their ignorance of wedding stuff, my fiance’s divorced parents hate each other. Would it be really awful if I did not invite them to the rehearsal dinner? I’m stressing about whether or not they’ll ruin it.<\/h2>\n
<\/div>\nQ: I will be hosting more than 45 people at my rehearsal dinner. Would it be ok to have the dinner at an Italian restaurant\/bar\/bowling alley? My wedding is very formal and my in-laws are concerned that they will look cheap, but I think it would be fun for everyone to get to know each other. What’s a good plan?<\/h2>\n
Q: Are written invitations mailed for the rehearsal dinner?<\/h2>\n
Q: I am curious about the etiquette involving toasts at the rehearsal dinner and the reception. I am the groom and would prefer not to address the group if I am not obliged (I have enough to worry about already!). Does the bride generally make a toast nowadays? Also, even if the bride and groom are not obliged to speak, does the obligation arise once others start making toasts?<\/h2>\n