{"id":17130,"date":"2017-06-01T19:16:27","date_gmt":"2017-06-01T19:16:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/?p=17130"},"modified":"2017-06-01T19:16:27","modified_gmt":"2017-06-01T19:16:27","slug":"rehearsal-dinner-faqs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/rehearsal-dinner-faqs\/","title":{"rendered":"Rehearsal Dinner FAQ’s"},"content":{"rendered":"
\n

Has wedding rehearsal dinner planning got you befuddled and bewildered? Not to worry. We\u2019ve got answers to help you piece together your pre-party puzzle.<\/p>\n

\"722554cb8822ed2e828caf347781f76d\"<\/p>\n

Q: What are the rules for the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? Who comes and who doesn\u2019t? I\u2019d like to spend as much time as possible with visiting friends and relatives, but I also want the ceremony to remain a \u201csurprise.\u201d<\/h2>\n

A:<\/strong> There are no rules! The guest list is pretty much up to you \u2014 it can be as simple as you two, your immediate families, and wedding party and their spouses and\/or significant others. Or, you can make it a bash and invite all your out-of-town guests. It\u2019s a very good opportunity to maximize your quality time with visiting friends and relatives \u2014 you\u2019ll be more relaxed than at the wedding, and you\u2019ll have more time to chat. And don\u2019t worry about ruining the \u201csurprise\u201d for them; they don\u2019t come to the actual ceremony rehearsal \u2014 that\u2019s only for the wedding party and your parents. Everyone else joins you afterward for dinner.<\/p>\n

<\/div>\n

Q: My fiance\u2019s family either has no idea they are supposed to host a rehearsal dinner, or they just don\u2019t care! My parents can\u2019t afford it but suggested I invite everyone to a catered party at my house (my fiance and I will pay for it). Aside from their ignorance of wedding stuff, my fiance\u2019s divorced parents hate each other. Would it be really awful if I did not invite them to the rehearsal dinner? I\u2019m stressing about whether or not they\u2019ll ruin it.<\/h2>\n

A:<\/strong> It would be awful not to invite them. Remember, no matter who they are or what they\u2019re like, your fiance\u2019s parents will soon be your in-laws. No matter how horrible you think they\u2019ll act, you should start off on the right foot by inviting them to this party. Trust me, there will be more trouble if you don\u2019t invite them than if you do. Grit your teeth, grin, and bear it. And it\u2019s true that his parents may not realize they\u2019re supposed to host the rehearsal dinner. It\u2019s up to you and your fiance to either bring it up with them or host the dinner yourselves. The fact that they\u2019re divorced and don\u2019t get along may make asking them to host it more trouble than it\u2019s worth. Remember, too, that the rehearsal dinner doesn\u2019t have to be a big to-do \u2014 it can be as simple as a home pizza party or burgers on the backyard grill. Look at it as a way to kick back before the wedding; concentrate on your family, your fiance, and your wedding party (this is a good time to present them with their thank-you gifts) instead of dwelling on what his parents might do at the event.<\/p>\n

<\/div>\n

Q: I will be hosting more than 45 people at my rehearsal dinner. Would it be ok to have the dinner at an Italian restaurant\/bar\/bowling alley? My wedding is very formal and my in-laws are concerned that they will look cheap, but I think it would be fun for everyone to get to know each other. What\u2019s a good plan?<\/h2>\n

A:<\/strong> The rehearsal dinner is the perfect opportunity to let your families hang out together in a more casual atmosphere. Sometimes, the more formal the wedding, the less formal the rehearsal dinner should be. It\u2019s not tacky at all! The formal wedding will be nicer and more fun because the key players are already comfortable with each other. And a casual rehearsal dinner doesn\u2019t have to be unstylish \u2014 you can go to a cool Italian restaurant or popular pizza joint and have a blast.<\/p>\n

Q: Are written invitations mailed for the rehearsal dinner?<\/h2>\n

A:<\/strong> The invitations<\/a> depend on your dinner. If it will be a big party with lots of out-of-town guests in a hotel banquet room or somewhere equally official, then you should send invitations. They can be either formally engraved or handwritten on cards, depending on the occasion\u2019s formality. You\u2019ll also want people to RSVP so you\u2019ll have a head count for the caterer. If your rehearsal dinner will be fairly low-key, a party at a pizza joint or a barbecue at Mom\u2019s house with just the wedding party, you two and your parents, then you don\u2019t really need \u201cofficial\u201d invitations. Just make sure everyone knows where they need to be and when.<\/p>\n

Q: I am curious about the etiquette involving toasts at the rehearsal dinner and the reception. I am the groom and would prefer not to address the group if I am not obliged (I have enough to worry about already!). Does the bride generally make a toast nowadays? Also, even if the bride and groom are not obliged to speak, does the obligation arise once others start making toasts?<\/h2>\n

A:<\/strong> Here\u2019s the deal with rehearsal-dinner wedding toasts: It does vary but chances are some people will toast you \u2014 your parents, the best man, etc. When you are toasted, you should definitely rise in thanks, and perhaps make a toast in return. The bride may also do a toast if she likes. Truthfully, the rehearsal party is traditionally the groom\u2019s and his parents\u2019 thing, so you can\u2019t just fade into the woodwork. Don\u2019t stress out about it, though. You needn\u2019t say anything earth-shattering \u2014 just thank whoever toasted you, tell your fiance you love her and can\u2019t wait for your day to begin, and thank your parents for all they\u2019ve done for you. At thereception<\/a>, the bride and groom generally do not respond to toasts, so you\u2019re off the hook there. If you get nervous, just remember \u2014 it\u2019s the best man who\u2019s expected to be witty, not you!<\/p>\n

Photo taken by Kristyn Hogan Photography kristynhogan.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Re-Blog from theknot.com<\/a>\u00a0all rights belong to theknot.com<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Has wedding rehearsal dinner planning got you befuddled and bewildered? Not to worry. We\u2019ve got answers to help you piece together your pre-party puzzle. Q: What are the rules for the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? Who comes and who doesn\u2019t? I\u2019d like to spend as much time as possible with visiting friends and relatives, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17130","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17130","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17130"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17130\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17130"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17130"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/studiowed.net\/nashville\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17130"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}