By Sheryl Paul, Author of The Conscious Bride
I’m a bit in awe of fear. I don’t meant that I bow down to it anymore, but I’m continually amazed at how creative and convincing its voice can be, especially when we’re caught in its grasp and working hard to loosen the fingers that keep us stuck. Once we reveal Fear’s illusion (and I capitalize it to convey that it really is like a character in our psyche), I actually feel a little sorry for this part that has to work so hard to keep us separate from love and truth and joy. It’s like the end of the “The Wizard of Oz” when the curtains are pulled back and the great voice of Oz turns out to be a vulnerable little man. Fear talks a good talk but once we expose its lies, it shrinks to its actual puny size and slinks away.
Over the weekend I received a lovely email from a woman who wrote to thank me for my Conscious Weddings work. When she initially contacted me in April she had written (with her permission):
A few weeks after I got engaged I found your book and found it so helpful and comforting. While I’ve been working through the doubts and fears, they have resurfaced now that we have less than three months to the wedding. Taking this as a sign that I still had work to do, I’ve begun the journaling technique you suggested. I write down my fears and then write to find reasons that those fears are irrational or rational. I have not found a reason that the fear that is concrete. But I am still very anxious and am having trouble trusting myself.
My biggest fear is that I will have doubts the day of the wedding and be scared to walk down the aisle. How can I learn to trust that this is the last phase of the process and not think that this is a sign that I shouldn’t marry? Do you have any advice on this “day of wedding” fear? Click here to read the rest of this post and response on the Conscious Transitions blog.
