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Rehearsal Dinner FAQ’s

Has wedding rehearsal dinner planning got you befuddled and bewildered? Not to worry. We’ve got answers to help you piece together your pre-party puzzle.


Q: What are the rules for the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? Who comes and who doesn’t? I’d like to spend as much time as possible with visiting friends and relatives, but I also want the ceremony to remain a “surprise.”

A: There are no rules! The guest list is pretty much up to you — it can be as simple as you two, your immediate families, and wedding party and their spouses and/or significant others. Or, you can make it a bash and invite all your out-of-town guests. It’s a very good opportunity to maximize your quality time with visiting friends and relatives — you’ll be more relaxed than at the wedding, and you’ll have more time to chat. And don’t worry about ruining the “surprise” for them; they don’t come to the actual ceremony rehearsal — that’s only for the wedding party and your parents. Everyone else joins you afterward for dinner.

Q: My fiance’s family either has no idea they are supposed to host a rehearsal dinner, or they just don’t care! My parents can’t afford it but suggested I invite everyone to a catered party at my house (my fiance and I will pay for it). Aside from their ignorance of wedding stuff, my fiance’s divorced parents hate each other. Would it be really awful if I did not invite them to the rehearsal dinner? I’m stressing about whether or not they’ll ruin it.

A: It would be awful not to invite them. Remember, no matter who they are or what they’re like, your fiance’s parents will soon be your in-laws. No matter how horrible you think they’ll act, you should start off on the right foot by inviting them to this party. Trust me, there will be more trouble if you don’t invite them than if you do. Grit your teeth, grin, and bear it. And it’s true that his parents may not realize they’re supposed to host the rehearsal dinner. It’s up to you and your fiance to either bring it up with them or host the dinner yourselves. The fact that they’re divorced and don’t get along may make asking them to host it more trouble than it’s worth. Remember, too, that the rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be a big to-do — it can be as simple as a home pizza party or burgers on the backyard grill. Look at it as a way to kick back before the wedding; concentrate on your family, your fiance, and your wedding party (this is a good time to present them with their thank-you gifts) instead of dwelling on what his parents might do at the event.

Q: I will be hosting more than 45 people at my rehearsal dinner. Would it be ok to have the dinner at an Italian restaurant/bar/bowling alley? My wedding is very formal and my in-laws are concerned that they will look cheap, but I think it would be fun for everyone to get to know each other. What’s a good plan?

A: The rehearsal dinner is the perfect opportunity to let your families hang out together in a more casual atmosphere. Sometimes, the more formal the wedding, the less formal the rehearsal dinner should be. It’s not tacky at all! The formal wedding will be nicer and more fun because the key players are already comfortable with each other. And a casual rehearsal dinner doesn’t have to be unstylish — you can go to a cool Italian restaurant or popular pizza joint and have a blast.

Q: Are written invitations mailed for the rehearsal dinner?

A: The invitations depend on your dinner. If it will be a big party with lots of out-of-town guests in a hotel banquet room or somewhere equally official, then you should send invitations. They can be either formally engraved or handwritten on cards, depending on the occasion’s formality. You’ll also want people to RSVP so you’ll have a head count for the caterer. If your rehearsal dinner will be fairly low-key, a party at a pizza joint or a barbecue at Mom’s house with just the wedding party, you two and your parents, then you don’t really need “official” invitations. Just make sure everyone knows where they need to be and when.

Q: I am curious about the etiquette involving toasts at the rehearsal dinner and the reception. I am the groom and would prefer not to address the group if I am not obliged (I have enough to worry about already!). Does the bride generally make a toast nowadays? Also, even if the bride and groom are not obliged to speak, does the obligation arise once others start making toasts?

A: Here’s the deal with rehearsal-dinner wedding toasts: It does vary but chances are some people will toast you — your parents, the best man, etc. When you are toasted, you should definitely rise in thanks, and perhaps make a toast in return. The bride may also do a toast if she likes. Truthfully, the rehearsal party is traditionally the groom’s and his parents’ thing, so you can’t just fade into the woodwork. Don’t stress out about it, though. You needn’t say anything earth-shattering — just thank whoever toasted you, tell your fiance you love her and can’t wait for your day to begin, and thank your parents for all they’ve done for you. At thereception, the bride and groom generally do not respond to toasts, so you’re off the hook there. If you get nervous, just remember — it’s the best man who’s expected to be witty, not you!

Photo taken by Kristyn Hogan Photography

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Vendor Spotlight : White Ink Calligraphy

White Ink Calligraphy

Get to know Claire:

1. What is your favorite vacation spot? —Just about any beach where there is beachside service!

2. Favorite Nashville hangout? — I consider myself a foodie and absolutely love that the Nashville restaurant scene has blown up.  I’m always out and about trying new places.  I live in East Nashville; however, I tend to lean towards Germantown solely for their restaurants.  City House is my absolute favorite, hands down.  If you haven’t tried their Margherita pizza with an egg on the middle, and a side of octopus, you’re missing out on life.
3. What is your favorite sport? — Is throwing a tennis ball for my dog to catch considered a sport? YES! I have a 7 year old golden retriever who has WAY more energy than one would ever expect.  He lives and breathes chasing a ball!
4. What makes you stand out? — I provide modern calligraphy services.  My style is for the modern bride and budget friendly.  I love to help brides incorporate my hand-lettering from their invitation envelopes to the welcome sign they use on their big day.
5. What does your ideal day look like? — Netflix.  My dog.  Wine.

What White Ink Calligraphy Offers:
Event Calligraphy services: wedding envelope addressing; place card lettering; handwritten seating charts; handwritten wedding vows, custom gift tags, wedding signage, etc.

What Others Are Saying:

“Claire was great! I needed a large number of name cards for my sister’s bridal shower. I explained to her that it was at a nicer restaurant and I wanted more than run of the mill hand-scribbled name cards (hence why I asked Claire to do it). They were better than I could have even expected! The price was very fair and the product was fantastic! I’ll definitely use Claire for my future wedding.” -Courtney 06.27.2016

“Definitely use this vendor! Saves time and takes the worry of addressing them yourselves! Great to work with and very flexible.” -Suzanne 06.06.2015

“My wife and I received a small uninteresting piece of paper for our wedding certificate six years ago. One day while perusing a local shop, I saw that they had beautiful ornate wedding certificates for framing. I had to buy one. We commissioned Claire to do the lettering on the certificate and it turned out perfectly! Her turnaround was quick and her skill was simply amazing. She really made the certificate look magnificent. Thank you, Claire!” – Jonathan 09.25.2010

Contact info:
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Photo of the Week : Kristyn Hogan Photography + Visual Elements

This weeks photo of the week, is featuring two of our lovely StudioWed vendors, Kristyn Hogan and Visual Elements!

I was thrilled when I stumbled across this photo on our news feed! The photo was captured beautifully by Kristyn Hogan Photography and the draping and decorative accents were placed perfectly enough to make this reception at the Country Music Hall of Fame, simply gorgeous!




If either of these vendors have intrigued you by this photo, you won’t want to miss all of their other work!